I cannot speak for others but I will start off with saying that I LOVE KIDS, AND THEY LOVE ME BACK (most of the time anyway).
Which is what made me curious about why this was the case. I mean, in order for an adult to love me they would have to get to know me and that involves talking. Yet, here I am bonding with a 2 year old and we’re best of friends without uttering a single word to each other. So yes, children are a mystery to me and their minds even more so.
A child will make a bond with anyone so strong you couldn’t break it even if you wanted to. Kids form bonds without speaking, without questioning, without doubt; if they like you they LOVE you, if they don’t, you will never come near them. Recently I’ve come to the realization that we try to love in the wrong way; we try to connect in the wrong form. In the lovers circle we’ve made sex the ultimate determiner of our emotions for another person and left reasoning to be the determining factor that pushes us off the edge into a relationship – if I can communicate and coexist with this person and we have good sex then it makes sense to be with them in the long term. Makes a lot of sense, right?
This is all misunderstood and in my opinion it’s what breaks up so many commitments. People make these kinds of decisions based on the phrase “it makes sense” then later fall out of the same love they thought would last and end up hating each other. I say we take a page from the acts and behaviours of children and for this, we should all learn to embrace the child within us for a reason; to find that pure unadulterated love. We need to embrace our inner child and let them guide us to where our hearts truly belong; because they know what we need before we even think it.
For the adventuresome outdoors folk like myself, a lot of us have always seen things differently, we’re accustomed to seeing people and circumstances to be temporary and so we perceive them that way. It’s quite hard for an explorer to clearly say that they have fallen in love with a particular person or place but the lucky few that do have some of the most amazing stories you’ll ever hear. We see a lot of beautiful places and meet a lot of people; amazing and incredible personalities; and when it comes to people especially, we never truly know if what we see is real or not, because people pretend a lot when they’re around us.
It is a rather complex position to be in. We ultimately cannot have any strings attached to people because at the end of the week we have to move on and that ultimately crushes our souls because we do not understand how our hearts still seek for more thrills in other places yet they remind us of the people that we’ve left behind. It confuses our emotions and at times we become rigid and pretend not to care when we actually do.
Love is a term that is both hurtful and inspiring to us..because we don’t get to fall for the adults we see before us, we fall in love with the inner child within them.
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At some point in life we meet that one person that our inner child just jumps out of our skin and yells, “I want to play with him/her.” That moment is what matters to us, that one moment is what defines what we call true love. It’s the whole reason why we travel and explore; to find that person with whom you can play with as though you were children and never get bored with; that is the real deal. You may get into fights with this person, you may get annoyed with them but at the end of the day no matter how much you think you hate them you still want to give them a hug before you go to bed. You can never stay mad at them no matter how much you think they deserve your silence. The goofiness and the playfulness of a child is what always remains and ties you together in a bond.
So if you fall in love with the inner child of a person I guarantee you their adult traits won’t mean a great significance in your life, until you make them a necessity.
Go out there and explore; be free; love and play like children; let’s see if you won’t find your ultimate partner in this enormous playground we call life on Earth.